How to Deal with Negative Emotion Effectively

How to Deal with Negative Emotion Effectively
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Do you find it hard dealing with negative emotion? Maybe you think you’re doing something wrong when your mood is low, or that the Law of Attraction will bring you even more things you don’t want. Whatever your challenge, here’s how to deal with feeling less-than-good effectively.

As long as you live, you’ll experience all kinds of feelings. That’s a given. Ranging from love, passion and contentment to the lower-level emotions, such as: frustration, sadness, hopelessness and fear.

Your emotions are your natural guidance.

For example, when your focus is on what bothers you, instead of what you want, it’s only human that you’ll feel accordingly. You’r guidance is telling you that perhaps, there’s something you need to pay attention to, heal and release.

Of course that we all want to feel good, but most of us haven’t been taught what it really means when we feel bad. At all costs, we try to get rid of the lower-level emotion (our natural guidance) and as a result, develop thought and behavioral patterns that create resistance in our energy, which block us from creating our heart’s desires.

As a little girl, for me to feel bad meant I did something bad or that I wasn’t deserving to feel good.

It took me years of personal development to come to know and honor myself fully. I’m now able to detach and not go the downward spiral and stay there for days, like I’d in the past.

I now understand what it means to feel less-then-good; I’m involved in the reality I don’t want either through my thought, conversation or observation. Abraham-Hicks calls this the first step of creation or contrast. This is where you experience what is not wanted for the purpose of defining what you do want. Usually, this happens subconsciously.

The better you feel the closer you are to your true self and your desires, and yet that is not to say that you shouldn’t ever feel negative emotion. Instead, pay attention and acknowledge your emotions. This way your vibration will raise naturally and you will feel better instantly.

Below are some ways to process the negative emotion effectively…

  • Remember what your emotions mean. When your mood is low, see where your focus has been. We all do this.
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    LOA & Trust

    LOA & Trust
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    The more deliberately you apply the principles of the Law of Attraction in your life, the more shifts and desired manifestations you’ll start seeing. Gradually, you’ll come to trust and believe that you can create anything you want-even if your desires seem big and far from where you are now.

    Until then, chances are you’re struggling and having doubts in your ability to create.

    Even if you’ve been applying the principles for some time and they resonate strongly, you’ll have moments of lack of trust, and that’s okay.

    It happens to the best of us.

    I see myself as someone from the category in the first paragraph, still, there are times where I curse the LOA and think of myself as a bad manifestor.

    It’s important to remember that we are all habitual beings and that real positive shifts take time, yet you don’t have to struggle and think you’re doing something wrong.

    Before I knew about Law of Attraction and deliberate creation, wanting something wouldn’t feel good. In spite of my strong desires, I didn’t believe in my power to create them, and I didn’t trust in luck that much either.

    Once I discovered and actually committed to applying the principles, little by little, my trust and belief in the Law of Attraction strengthened and solidified.

    That’s what I want for you, too. I can talk to you, share tips and stories, but unless you put it into action, you can’t really know it for yourself.

    So the question to ask yourself is…

    … Have I really committed to shifting my reality?

    Let’s take one principle, for example and see how it looks like in practical terms…. Shifting your focus from what you don’t want to what you do.

    Let’s say you want to create an ideal intimate relationship. The challenge is the fact that you’re not living it now. You keep noticing ‘unwanted’ or the negative aspects of that area in your life, which creates negative feelings or lower level vibration within you. This is how (even though not intentionally) you’re continuing the creation of not having what you want.

    How about if you want more abundance in your life, but keep noticing the absence of $$$ in your life, which again makes you feel the feelings of lack. If you don’t do anything to shift your focus, and therefore how you feel about this area in your life, nothing is changing, makes sense?

    If you want to build up your belief and trust that the Law of Attraction really works, even if you haven’t yet seen it for yourself, you’ll have to do something different. It is going to take some deliberate focusing and about three weeks to form a new habit.

    Let me know what you’re taking away from this post and/or if you need assistance with applying this information in your life.

    Big love……… Ruzica

    When Positive Affirmations Don’t Work

    Positive Affirmation
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    Do you sometimes find yourself thinking that being positive and optimistic is hard work? Do you believe that affirmations can transform your life, but so often, it just feels off when you do it?

    Keep reading to find out why that is, and more importantly, how to shift the way you feel about affirmations and use them in a way that can help you create what you want in life..

    I’m a big fan of affirmations as they can truly evoke and amplify the positive feelings within us, which is the #1 key to Law of Attraction and Manifesting. However, I’ve seen people (even myself) wanting to use affirmations when they would least work, and that is when we are feeling down and our vibration is low. You may be feeling pessimism, impatience, frustration or any other lower level emotion, and you are tired of feeling that way.

    When affirming from this vibrational state, positive affirmations can feel irritating or worse. What you want to do instead is find the feelings of relief. Forget about affirmations and being positive when you’re not even close to feeling that way. Your goal is to soothe yourself and raise your vibration.

    So what can you actually do when wanting to raise your vibration and find relief?

  • understand that you can’t jump vibrations and suddenly go from frustration to appreciation
  • It helps to define the current emotion so that you can consciously acknowledge when you feel better
  • Ask yourself, What could I say to myself, or do so I can feel a little bit better? When you do accomplish feeling better, see if you can move yourself even a little bit higher, then rest in the good feelings you’ve just created.

    Continue reading When Positive Affirmations Don’t Work

  • The Greatest Gift You Can Give Yourself (and others) this Christmas

    the greatest gift this Christmas
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    While Christmas is all about the Spirit of giving, family, food, and festivities, most often than not, especially women, find themselves overwhelmed and stressed out. There’s many new things on our already long ‘to do’ list. We focus on doing vs. being. This article will help you give yourself and those around you the greatest gift this holiday season.

    Whether you are working or taking care of your family, running a business, or a combination of the above, If you’re not deliberate about the way you approach things in life and how you want to feel, you can stress and overwhelm yourself easily, especially for Christmas. Instead of feeling great and festive, you end up feeling frustrated, burned out and resentful.

    You’ve probably guessed by now that the greatest gift you can give yourself this Christmas is you feeling good, you being happy. But how do you do that, exactly?

    The best tool I know is meditation. Below are some of the greatest benefits of meditation that I and my clients have experienced, and if you look up, you can find tons of scientific proof on the power and benefits of meditation.

    The Greatest Benefits of Meditation:

    –better health; meditation reduces stress levels and alleviates anxiety. From this alone, many other health benefits will ensue. Since I’ve been meditating regularly, I don’t remember the last time I went to see my doctor.

    –improved concentration; this will make you more productive. You accomplish so much more in so much less time, and with ease.

    –less bothered by little things; meditation helps you detach from unimportant little things that lower your energy and affect your vibration. When I meditate, it feels like I know the source of unlimited well-being, no matter how things may seem at the moment.

    –knowledge of the Self. Meditation allows you to have deeper understanding of your inner self and your life’s purpose. You get inspired to do things you love and you do them with clarity, ease and great joy.

    The greatest benefit of meditation from the Law of Attraction perspective is energy balance. You attract and manifest through your energy. Meditating regularly clears your mind of mental chatter, which brings up to the surface your natural state of well-being and happiness. It raises your personal energetic frequency.

    You can simply take 10-15 minutes of your day to sit in silence and focus on your breathing. When the mind starts to wander (it will, that’s its job), bring it back gently to the breath. Like everything else, with time and practice, this will become easy.

    Meditation doesn’t have to be long to be effective. Even if you start with five minutes or less, I encourage you to give it at least three weeks and see what happens. I assure you’ll be amazed by the results, insights, and manifestations afterwards.

    So there you have it, the greatest gift (and tool) you can give yourself and others this Christmas.

    LOA & Clarity – Discovering Your True Desires

    LOA & Clarity, Discovering your true desires
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    To create anything you truly want using the LOA deliberately, you need to discover what that is first so you can focus on your true desires with clarity.

    Your true self already knows your true desires, but to align your focus with that knowing and experience its vibrational frequency, so that you can attract what you want to you, you have to have the clarity.

    Discovering your true desires will help you focus in the direction of what you want, instead of the opposite. As a result, your vibration will raise and you’ll feel wonderful.

    You will have started off a powerful deliberate creation process and it’s going to be so much fun as you start noticing your outer reality shifting.

    Think about yourself when you were just a little kid. Didn’t you dream big and pictured yourself living different realities just for the fun and purpose of how it would make you feel?

    Weren’t you discovering what you want and living in your imagination most of the time?

    Albert Einstein said, “Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand.”

    Discovering your desires is easier then people think, you just have to remember your power and give yourself permission to dream BIG.

    There is nothing you cannot create in this energy based Universe, but you do have to align yourself with the energy of whatever that is. Desires manifest for those who don’t give up on them.

    So I’m asking you now to allow yourself to do just that. Grab a pen and piece of paper and without censoring, write down anything and everything you’d like to experience in your life, kind of like a bucket list, if you will. Tap into your imagination and keep writing as long as it flows.

    Remember, it can be anything. This is a Universe of unlimited possibilities and all you have to do is decide what you want and claim it energetically.

    You are the one who knows you best. What do you want?

    Don’t think about other peoples’ opinion or worry about the ‘how’. The how part will reveal itself to you, step by step and it will feel right and natural when it does.

    At this stage, focusing on others and means of manifesting will prevent you from drawing your desires to you. Your conscious mind can’t figure this out. It’s task is to notice, observe, analyze and apply. What you want to do is tap into the subconscious mind, where possibilities are unlimited.

    Here’s my personal Desire List example…

  • Be on the Abraham-Hicks cruise
  • Build my dream business and team
  • Move into my dream house
  • Buy my dream car
  • Have a private chef
  • Change lives of hundreds thousands +
  • Earn my first million
  • Travel the world
  • And so much more…
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  • The Most Important Decision You’ll Ever Make

    the most important decision you\'ll ever make
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    Einstein said that the most important decision you’ll ever make is whether you believe you live in a friendly universe or a hostile universe–in a positive universe or a negative universe.

    What are your beliefs about the world you live in? More importantly, how does it feel to you when you think them? Are your beliefs working out for or against you?

    If you have a belief that you live in an environment that is designed to break you instead of strengthen and make you, your belief then is creating the circumstances around you that are, like a mirror reflecting back to you how you feel on the inside.

    If you hold a belief that people are selfish and disrespectful, you attract people who are selfish and disrespectful. Maybe they aren’t in general, but when around you, by your own thoughts and vibration, you extract those behaviors from them. They might not be conscious or know why they are acting in such way. They fulfill your own expectations of them, unless they are strong and aligned with their real self and give you the opportunity to for transformation.

    One of your core beliefs may be that there is never enough, or that you’re not enough. Which is tied to your finances, also all other areas. One strong belief can prevent you from growing in all areas simply because it’s your dominant attraction point. Maybe those around you are not showing you love, respect, etc. because you don’t feel the same about yourself.

    It’s all about perspective. You can’t create beyond what you decide is possible, and the most important belief you can have is that things are happening for you, not to you. Like Einstein said, the most important decision you’ll ever make is whether you believe you live in a friendly universe or a hostile universe.

    When you decide and come to know that the Universe is friendly and has your back no matter what, your point of attraction shifts. You set out to look for the best in everything and you attract more of the same by the powerful Law of Attraction.

    Your beliefs are habitual; you learn a certain way of thinking based on other people’s and your own old experiences, through which you filter and create the new reality. The good news is that you can decide, choose and activate the beliefs you want. Another good news is that you don’t need years now to rebuild your habits of thoughts. The important thing is your awareness of the beliefs that aren’t serving you, making a decision to shift them and deliberate creation of new thoughts. Law of Attraction will assist you with this as it adds momentum to and amplifies your decision.

    Now… I would love to know your thoughts and experiences on ‘The Most Important Decision You’ll Ever Make.’ Leave me a comment below, and if you liked the article, please share it. Also, subscribe for more empowering resources.

    Easy Breezy Manifesting

    Easy, Breezy Manifesting
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    I was going to write about how my pre-Halloween party last week turned into an emergency trip with my six-year-old son before we even started. The story and message was about me sifting from frustration to appreciation. Valuable, no doubt! But something happened a couple days after that that made me change my mind about the subject– easy breezy Manifesting it is!

    If you follow me on facebook, chances are you’ve seen my little ‘boots story’ plus the pic in the news feed.

    Three weeks ago, I saw this Asian girl wearing a pair of boots, which I L O V E D. When I asked her where she got them, she said, China. I said, you’re kidding!? She said, no I’m not… She must have been a student or just visiting Canada.

    My first thought was, ‘Oh… forget about them’ thinking that I probably wouldn’t find them here in Canada, then I remembered that Law of Attraction abounds and that, if I stayed in alignment with my desire, meaning not contradict it with other negative thoughts, those boots would have to manifest into my experience. After all, this was only a pair of boots and I knew it would be easy breezy manifesting.

    I looked, but couldn’t find them everywhere, offline and online. Then I thought, Ok boots, you find me (and really meant it). I let go of the thought completely and went about living my life. I’d visualize them few times after meditating and simply enjoyed the idea of wearing them.

    This past Sunday, I go to the mall with my family, and as we are entering the first store (H & M), I look up and there they were, on the shelf. 99% the same pair of boots I saw on that girl about twenty days ago, if not even prettier.

    You should’ve seen me! I was like a little kid in a candy store.

    So why am I sharing this with you, it’s a pair of boots for God’s sake, you may be thinking. Here’s why…

    Yes, to you it may look like it’s only a pair of boots and simply a coincidence. But remembering what shopping used to look like for me, and having the experience studying, coaching others and deliberately putting the LOA to work in my own life, this’s a BIG success to celebrate.

    It was something I didn’t have much resistant thought to and that’s why it was easy, breezy AND speedy.

    But the real joy and exhilaration for me comes from knowing I did it. I wanted it, aligned with it, and attracted it– basic attraction formula to create any desire, big or small.

    Once again, I strengthened my manifesting muscle and rewired my brain for bigger successes. I encourage you to do the same. If you want to master the art of deliberate creation, start small and acknowledge every success. Before you know it, you’ll be creating those desires that used to seem unreachable.

    The Voice Of Action

    By Eva Gregory

    voice_of_actionThere’s a voice that says “YES, this is the right decision”, “No, let’s pass on this”, or even “Hmm, let’s mull this over a bit.” In each instance your voice within advises you to take action, even if it is inaction. But do you really listen to it, or do you scoff at the idea that you actually pay attention to your inner voice?

    That voice is intuition. Your intuition is your guide, the one thing that you can truly count on that is always looking out for your best interest … if you choose to listen for it, not intercept the message, and ACT on its direction.

    But it’s very easy to let your voice of intuition be clouded by other things. Fear, desire, self-doubt, and over-reasoning are all some of the many types of intuition blockers. Instead, trust that your intuition is your personal guide to the correct path for you at all times. Not just when your intuition falls in line with your thoughts on a subject. Turn off whatever limiting beliefs that may be overpowering your intuition.

    Perhaps it’s your belief that intuition is just “mumbo jumbo”. It is easy to believe this because intuition is not thought of as a concrete thing. It is based on nonverbal things, feelings, unconscious thought, and instinct. This is definitely not a description for people who define things in black and white. Intuition is often looked at as gray. But it is not.

    Intuition is basically a synopsis of information that has been taken in through all of the senses, memory, subconscious, and reasoning. It is like a clear overview in Cliff Notes format.

    When your intuition speaks to you do you hear it? Do you know how to identify it? Your intuition typically kicks in when you are quiet. Many people find answers to their questions in the dreams, or when meditating. Others find them “out of the blue”, when they are not looking for them. Many “feel” the right thing to do, or what the next course of action should be. There are many ways that your intuition will speak to you, and everyone’s is unique.

    How do you learn to trust your intuition? Like everything else, if it is practiced it becomes second nature. Allow yourself to consciously ask for the answers to something that you are seeking and write down the results when they occur. Visualize you unlocking a door and seeing your answer tumble from within.

    Through repetition and proof, your confidence in your intuition will grow and it will become second nature to trust it automatically.

    About Eva:

    Eva Gregory is a Law of Attraction expert, speaker and author and mentor to spiritual entrepreneurs, coaches and holistic practitioners. Her passion is teaching spiritual entrepreneurs how to tap into their own inner guidance and merge it with the practical steps to create healthy sustainable businesses from a place of purpose, passion and prosperity.

    “Leading Spiritual Entrepreneurs from Chaos To Clarity and From Clarity To Cash Flow!”

    Get your FREE REPORT: “Massive Success For Spiritual Entrepreneurs” here. Learn more about how Eva can help you at www.EvaGregory.com.

    This One Thing Can Shift Every Area of Your Life

    One thing that can shift all areas of your life
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    You know, it doesn’t matter how much you are into personal empowerment and Law of Attraction, what action and processes you apply to improve your your life. Not much will shift, unless you shift this one thing.

    So what is this one thing that can ultimately empower your life?

    Well, before I go into that, I’d like to ask you, What do you think that is? Take a moment now and allow yourself to locate the answer within. Take three slow and deep breaths in and out (no cheating, please!), close your eyes and ask yourself, ‘What is the one thing I can do daily that can shift every area of my life?’

    You’ve probably guessed! That one thing is called Self-Love.

    Here’s another interesting thing… if it popped up fast for you, congratulations! You’re either about to, or are already practicing Self-Love. If you had hard time finding the answer, no worries, all you needed to do is put your focus back on it. It’s there. You came from it!

    Many people want to improve their life and manifest amazing experiences but aren’t practicing Self-Love, this one thing that is one of the highest vibrations you can generate has the power to shift every area of your life.

    Our society has taught us that loving oneself is selfish. ‘How dare you! You shouldn’t think about yourself so much…’ We would hear. Just observe little children, or think of yourself as a kid and you’ll remember your worthiness. This is not to say that you should disregard others, rather to fill yourself with what feels good to you.

    When you don’t love yourself, nothing in the world can satisfy and fill that emptiness inside, well, at least not for long. You sabotage yourself and your dreams. You indulge in self-destructing behaviors.

    Just think about what happens when you practice self-love deliberately and unconditionally. You can’t help but radiate love on the outside, show it to others and magnetize more of it back to you. Your vibration and point of attraction shifts, others notice and respond to you differently. You take inspired action towards your dreams, instead sabotaging yourself, and most importantly, you feel wonderful.

    So what decision you can make or action take today to love yourself deliberately and unconditionally?

    How can you love yourself, not just when you’re feeling good. But, even when you have one of those days. Even when those around you aren’t showing you love. Even when things aren’t yet exactly the way you want them to be, etc.

    There are many ways and endless opportunities to practice Self-Love, but here are the two general…

    #1 Celebrate
    Celebrate yourself and everything in your life when feeling good, write your appreciation lists in your LOA journal. Do something nice for yourself…

    #2 Soothe

    Acknowledge the way you feel when you are not feeling your best and make that okay too. Soothe your energy by allowing yourself to feel all emotions.

    Leave me a comment below!

    Don’t Blame Reality, Create One

    Don\'t Blame Reality, Create One
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    Do you believe that you are the creator of your reality, but sometimes you find yourself blaming instead of acknowledging your own creations when they turn out to be not so pleasing?

    The other day, I was doing exactly that. I observed something I am clear I don’t want to continue seeing in my life and then, instead of doing what I preach and distracting myself from the moment of contrast, I spanned off into blaming my ‘reality’. Clearly, in that moment, I forgot that I am the one who invited it all. By default, but still, it was my own creation.

    The truth is that blame does feel better at first, and sometimes I’ll let and watch my self went if the momentum is too strong. But, I’ve come to know that when I blame, I also give my power away. It doesn’t improve my or anyone else’s life.

    So why was I experiencing something unpleasant if I believe in the Law of Attraction and call myself masterful deliberate creator? Why on earth would I create something I don’t want?

    When you don’t pay attention to subtleties of your thoughts and forget to guide them deliberately, we can also say, when you get distracted from your desires, you slide back into repeating instead of creating reality. This is because you are a habitual being- we all are. Your subconscious mind will continue in the direction that it’s used to, unless you reprogram and guide it until you change the default.

    Here’s what’s good about living what you don’t want… You become more clear about the reality you do want. The clearer you’re about what you do want, the more committed you’ll be to create it.

    You may be thinking, yeah, so now what?

    Well, now because my desire is so clear and because it doesn’t feel good when I look at the opposite (no matter how ‘real’ that may seem); I am fired up to focus and tune into my desires better, to envision that which I want more. Now I don’t blame, but appreciate the gift of clarity I received from living the unwanted. I’m back to the feelings of exhilaration that comes from knowing that I’m always at choice no matter the circumstances. I’m now willing more than ever to do whatever is necessary to connect with my desires and raise my frequency even higher.

    If you aren’t in tune with your emotions and not clear on what you want, things have to exaggerate a little before you can consciously note and acknowledge that you want different results. That’s what happened to me, or better said, the reality I created. The true is that things don’t have to get dramatic. It’s about balancing your own energy.

    The way to get ahead and control your creation is to stop blaming and pay attention to how you feel, then course-correct accordingly.

    Leave me a comment below to let me know you thoughts/experiences.